Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Tuesday class presentations
So I had a few thoughts about Buddhism and marriage last night as we listened to Shelby's group present the various views of marriage in religions and it made me wonder some things. I looked up a couple of websites last night and found this one to be the most well rounded in answering what a Buddhist marriage is or done. http://www.deaconministry.com/buddhism.htm. It was simple and straightforward. I think traveling to the eastern countries to have a ceremony with a few family members would be a neat idea, but a simple ritual with prayers to the Buddha and chanting, and a monk would be cool and very spiritual.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Thanks all!
Thank you to everyone whose been following my blog. it's been messy and full of saved drafts. I plan to continue to keep this up during the summer and hopefully update once a week. I'm still not good at this blogging stuff, generally writing it in my head first and forgetting it all when ready to write it. ^.^ have a nice summer! Thanks Maran for reading my final experience.
meditation
Earlier this month I had found this fun website all about meditation and looking back at my blog, noticed I hadn't posted it. This is what I've been doing nearly every time/ day.
http://www.how-to-meditate.org/meditation-posture.htm/
sitting upright with my legs crossed in a relaxing area, relaxing my muscles and body, focusing my mind, and silencing it's 'chatter' that is constant. I haven't been able to still the chatter as of yet, but I'm getting there. stray thoughts like to pop up.
http://www.how-to-meditate.org/meditation-posture.htm/
sitting upright with my legs crossed in a relaxing area, relaxing my muscles and body, focusing my mind, and silencing it's 'chatter' that is constant. I haven't been able to still the chatter as of yet, but I'm getting there. stray thoughts like to pop up.
Through meditation I plan to work on problems of myself and how to help the world. I'm working on being more mindful of my actions, procrastinating less, caring for others more seriously and putting more time in with family, gaining pleasure from simple things like gardening and less from tv and material things.
this summer I plan to plant trees and join several volunteer groups, for the elderly, aiding the humane society, feeding the homeless, raising money, environmental groups and raising awareness of other things.
this summer I plan to plant trees and join several volunteer groups, for the elderly, aiding the humane society, feeding the homeless, raising money, environmental groups and raising awareness of other things.
More thoughts
Just a few more thoughts on being a Buddhist. I think it is about being more peaceful, level headed, taking the middle path, not extremes, and also being more self aware of ones actions and thoughts.
I see the eightfold path as a way to find nirvana, a sort of inter-mixable 8 step program to be a better person. Here is an exert from Wikipedia on the eightfold path of Buddhism.
there is also some rules/precepts laid out for right living, beyond and involving the eightfold path which I tried to follow, also clearly spoken of from wikipedia.:
I see the eightfold path as a way to find nirvana, a sort of inter-mixable 8 step program to be a better person. Here is an exert from Wikipedia on the eightfold path of Buddhism.
The Noble Eightfold Path—the fourth of the Buddha's Noble Truths—is the way to the cessation of suffering (dukkha). It has eight sections, each starting with the word "samyak" -frequently translated into English as "right", and presented in three groups known as the three higher trainings.
- Prajñā is the wisdom that purifies the mind, allowing it to attain spiritual insight into the true nature of all things. It includes:
- dṛṣṭi (ditthi): viewing reality as it is, not just as it appears to be.
- saṃkalpa (sankappa): intention of renunciation, freedom and harmlessness.
- Śīla is the ethics or morality, or abstention from unwholesome deeds. It includes:
- vāc (vāca): speaking in a truthful and non-hurtful way
- karman (kammanta): acting in a non-harmful way
- ājīvana (ājīva): a non-harmful livelihood
- Samādhi is the mental discipline required to develop mastery over one’s own mind. This is done through the practice of various contemplative and meditative practices, and includes:
- vyāyāma (vāyāma): making an effort to improve
- smṛti (sati): awareness to see things for what they are with clear consciousness, being aware of the present reality within oneself, without any craving or aversion
- samādhi (samādhi): correct meditation or concentration, explained as the first four jhānas
there is also some rules/precepts laid out for right living, beyond and involving the eightfold path which I tried to follow, also clearly spoken of from wikipedia.:
- To refrain from taking life (non-violence towards sentient life forms), or ahimsā
- To refrain from taking that which is not given (not committing theft)
- To refrain from sensual (including sexual) misconduct
- To refrain from lying (speaking truth always)
- To refrain from intoxicants which lead to loss of mindfulness (specifically, drugs and alcohol)
The precepts are not formulated as imperatives, but as training rules that laypeople undertake voluntarily to facilitate practice.In Buddhist thought, the cultivation of dana and ethical conduct will themselves refine consciousness to such a level that rebirth in one of the lower heavens is likely, even if there is no further Buddhist practice. There is nothing improper or un-Buddhist about limiting one's aims to this level of attainment.
- 6. To refrain from eating at the wrong time (only eat from sunrise to noon)
- 7. To refrain from dancing and playing music, wearing jewelry and cosmetics, attending shows and other performances
- 8. To refrain from using high or luxurious seats and bedding
The complete list of ten precepts may be observed by laypeople for short periods. For the complete list, the seventh precept is partitioned into two, and a tenth added:
- 6. To refrain from taking food at an unseasonable time, that is after the mid-day meal
- 7. To refrain from dancing, music, singing and unseemly shows
- 8. To refrain from the use of garlands, perfumes, ointments, and from things that tend to beautify and adorn (the person)
- 9. To refrain from (using) high and luxurious seats (and beds)
- 10. To refrain from accepting gold and silver
Sunday, May 9, 2010
dead in an egg.
So my friend posted this on their page today and I saw this. This is what I'll be meditating on for the next couple days. It's completely new to me, this story and concept. Amazing and intense.
So far, I've broken my vegetarian diet 3 times, twice to try a new food, and once more because I was very hungry and lasagna was very appetizing (only later to find veg. lasagna in the freezer. >.<)
I've been listening and propagating gossip at work and at home with friends.
I've told small lies and done a couple things I shouldn't of to the same caliber.
I've put myself on the same level as others, instead of them before me.
I've failed to meditate how often I've planned to.
In total, to this point I've been an okay Buddhist, not a good one or terribly bad one, but a Buddhist in error. But that's okay. I'm still learning. Loosing focus is easy to do and means I just need to train harder to focus better and longer. This is a life goal I think I've created through this final experience project through world religions course and I quite like where it is headed. I don't think I would be where I am right now had I not decided to try doing this.
From this I feel I've achieved better restraint and acceptance of things that would normally anger me, or I would act out on.
Overall better control.
A new vantage point on life.
and much more.
For right now though, I am off to bed, and going to think about this story I just posted.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You were on your way home when you died.
It was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. You left behind a wife and two children. It was a painless death. The EMT tried their best to save you, but to no avail. Your body was so utterly shattered you were better off, trust me.
And that's when you met me.
"What... what happened?" You asked. "Where am I?"
"You died," I said, matter-of-factly. No point in mincing words.
"There was a... a truck and it was skidding..."
"Yup." I said.
"I... I died?"
Yup. But don't feel bad about it. Everyone dies." I said.
You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. "What is this place?" You asked. "Is this the afterlife?"
"More or less." I said.
"Are you god?" You asked.
"Yup." I replied. "I'm God."
"My kids.. My wife," you said.
"What about them?"
"Will they be all right?"
"That's what I like to see." I said. "You just died and your main concern is for your family. That's good stuff right there."
You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn't look like God. I just looked like some man. Or possibly a woman. Some vague authority figure, maybe. More of a grammar school teacher than the almighty.
"Don't worry," I said. "They'll be fine. Your kids will remember you as perfect in every way. They didn't have time to grow contempt for you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but will be secretly relieved. To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it's any consolation, she'll feel very guilty for feeling relieved."
"Oh," you said. "So what happens now? Do I go to heaven or hell or something?"
"Neither," I said. "You'll be reincarnated."
"Ah," you said. "So the Hindus were right."
"All religions are right in their own way," I said. "Walk with me."
You followed along as we strode through the void. "Where are we going?"
"Nowhere in particular," I said. "It's just nice to walk while we talk."
"So what's the point, then?" You asked. "When I get reborn, I'll just be a blank slate, right? A baby. So all my experiences and everything I did in this life won't matter."
"Not so!" I said. "You have within you all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. You just don't remember them right now."
I stopped walking and took you by the shoulders. "Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly image. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you are. It's like sticking your finger in a glass of water to see if it's hot or cold. You put a tiny part of yourself into the vessel, and when you bring it back out, you've gained all the experience it had."
"You've been in a human for the last 48 years, so you haven't stretched out yet and felt the rest of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for long enough, you'd start remembering everything. But there's no point to doing that between each life."
"How many times have I been reincarnated, then?"
"Oh, lots. Lots and lots. And in to lots of different lives," I said. "This time around, you'll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 AD."
"Wait, what?" You stammered. "You're sending me back in time?"
"Well, I guess technically. Time, as you know it, only exists in your universe. Things are different where I came from."
"Where you come from?" You said.
"Oh sure," I explained. "I come from somewhere. Somewhere else. And there are others like me. I know you'll want to know what it's like there, but honestly, you wouldn't understand."
"Oh," you said, a little let down. "But wait. If I get reincarnated to other places in time, I could have interacted with myself at some point."
"Sure. Happens all the time. And with both lives only aware of their own lifespan, you don't even know it's happening."
"So what's the point of it all?"
"Seriously?" I asked. "Seriously? You're asking me for the meaning of life? Isn't that a little stereotypical?"
"Well, it's a reasonable question," you persisted.
I looked you in the eye. "The meaning of life, the reason I made this whole universe, is for you to mature."
"You mean mankind? You want us to mature?"
"No, just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life you grow and mature and become a larger and greater intellect."
"Just me? What about everyone else?"
"There is no one else," I said. "In this universe, there's just you and me."
You stared blankly at me. "But all the people on earth..."
"All you. Different incarnations of you."
"Wait, I'm everyone!?"
"Now you're getting it," I said, with a congratulatory slap on the back.
"I'm every human being who ever lived?"
"Or who will ever live, yes."
"I'm Abraham Lincoln?"
"And you're John Wilkes Booth, too," I added.
"I'm Hitler?" You said, appalled.
"And you're the millions he killed."
"I'm Jesus?"
"And you're everyone who followed him."
You fell silent.
"Every time you victimized someone," I said, "you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you've done, you've done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you."
You thought for a long time.
"Why?" You asked me. "Why do you do all this?"
"Because someday, you will become like me. Because that's what you are. You're one of my kind. You're my child."
"Whoa," you said, incredulous. "You mean I'm a god?"
"No, not yet. You're a fetus. You're still growing. Once you've lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born."
"So the whole universe," you said, "it's just..."
"An egg." I answered. "Now it's time for you to move on to your next life."
And I sent you on your way. ”
— You
I've been listening and propagating gossip at work and at home with friends.
I've told small lies and done a couple things I shouldn't of to the same caliber.
I've put myself on the same level as others, instead of them before me.
I've failed to meditate how often I've planned to.
In total, to this point I've been an okay Buddhist, not a good one or terribly bad one, but a Buddhist in error. But that's okay. I'm still learning. Loosing focus is easy to do and means I just need to train harder to focus better and longer. This is a life goal I think I've created through this final experience project through world religions course and I quite like where it is headed. I don't think I would be where I am right now had I not decided to try doing this.
From this I feel I've achieved better restraint and acceptance of things that would normally anger me, or I would act out on.
Overall better control.
A new vantage point on life.
and much more.
For right now though, I am off to bed, and going to think about this story I just posted.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You were on your way home when you died.
It was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. You left behind a wife and two children. It was a painless death. The EMT tried their best to save you, but to no avail. Your body was so utterly shattered you were better off, trust me.
And that's when you met me.
"What... what happened?" You asked. "Where am I?"
"You died," I said, matter-of-factly. No point in mincing words.
"There was a... a truck and it was skidding..."
"Yup." I said.
"I... I died?"
Yup. But don't feel bad about it. Everyone dies." I said.
You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. "What is this place?" You asked. "Is this the afterlife?"
"More or less." I said.
"Are you god?" You asked.
"Yup." I replied. "I'm God."
"My kids.. My wife," you said.
"What about them?"
"Will they be all right?"
"That's what I like to see." I said. "You just died and your main concern is for your family. That's good stuff right there."
You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn't look like God. I just looked like some man. Or possibly a woman. Some vague authority figure, maybe. More of a grammar school teacher than the almighty.
"Don't worry," I said. "They'll be fine. Your kids will remember you as perfect in every way. They didn't have time to grow contempt for you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but will be secretly relieved. To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it's any consolation, she'll feel very guilty for feeling relieved."
"Oh," you said. "So what happens now? Do I go to heaven or hell or something?"
"Neither," I said. "You'll be reincarnated."
"Ah," you said. "So the Hindus were right."
"All religions are right in their own way," I said. "Walk with me."
You followed along as we strode through the void. "Where are we going?"
"Nowhere in particular," I said. "It's just nice to walk while we talk."
"So what's the point, then?" You asked. "When I get reborn, I'll just be a blank slate, right? A baby. So all my experiences and everything I did in this life won't matter."
"Not so!" I said. "You have within you all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. You just don't remember them right now."
I stopped walking and took you by the shoulders. "Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly image. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you are. It's like sticking your finger in a glass of water to see if it's hot or cold. You put a tiny part of yourself into the vessel, and when you bring it back out, you've gained all the experience it had."
"You've been in a human for the last 48 years, so you haven't stretched out yet and felt the rest of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for long enough, you'd start remembering everything. But there's no point to doing that between each life."
"How many times have I been reincarnated, then?"
"Oh, lots. Lots and lots. And in to lots of different lives," I said. "This time around, you'll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 AD."
"Wait, what?" You stammered. "You're sending me back in time?"
"Well, I guess technically. Time, as you know it, only exists in your universe. Things are different where I came from."
"Where you come from?" You said.
"Oh sure," I explained. "I come from somewhere. Somewhere else. And there are others like me. I know you'll want to know what it's like there, but honestly, you wouldn't understand."
"Oh," you said, a little let down. "But wait. If I get reincarnated to other places in time, I could have interacted with myself at some point."
"Sure. Happens all the time. And with both lives only aware of their own lifespan, you don't even know it's happening."
"So what's the point of it all?"
"Seriously?" I asked. "Seriously? You're asking me for the meaning of life? Isn't that a little stereotypical?"
"Well, it's a reasonable question," you persisted.
I looked you in the eye. "The meaning of life, the reason I made this whole universe, is for you to mature."
"You mean mankind? You want us to mature?"
"No, just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life you grow and mature and become a larger and greater intellect."
"Just me? What about everyone else?"
"There is no one else," I said. "In this universe, there's just you and me."
You stared blankly at me. "But all the people on earth..."
"All you. Different incarnations of you."
"Wait, I'm everyone!?"
"Now you're getting it," I said, with a congratulatory slap on the back.
"I'm every human being who ever lived?"
"Or who will ever live, yes."
"I'm Abraham Lincoln?"
"And you're John Wilkes Booth, too," I added.
"I'm Hitler?" You said, appalled.
"And you're the millions he killed."
"I'm Jesus?"
"And you're everyone who followed him."
You fell silent.
"Every time you victimized someone," I said, "you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you've done, you've done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you."
You thought for a long time.
"Why?" You asked me. "Why do you do all this?"
"Because someday, you will become like me. Because that's what you are. You're one of my kind. You're my child."
"Whoa," you said, incredulous. "You mean I'm a god?"
"No, not yet. You're a fetus. You're still growing. Once you've lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born."
"So the whole universe," you said, "it's just..."
"An egg." I answered. "Now it's time for you to move on to your next life."
And I sent you on your way. ”
— You
Monday, April 26, 2010
Today at work
So today at work I was standing and thinking about how well I've been doing this project, following the eightfold path and trying to help others. I realized I wasn't doing so good. I would catch myself gossiping, before I started to gossip and still do it- talking about my coworkers or customers as soon as they were out of ear shot and snickering when mean things were said. I also was aware of being careful and discreet in other things that I would say, not lying but omitting things.
I've worked hard without much slacking and in a non harmful way. I've kept the violence to a minimum, although a few slip ups have happened. I've been reflecting on all that I've done this past weekend and thinking I could of done better, been better, and helped others more than I had, being less selfish in the process.
Reflecting on what my life is right now though- I'm not sure I really want to take that step back and look at my life and see it as a whole. Thoughts like- I'm 2 decades old, been dating almost 2 years, made but learned from my mistakes with little to no regrets, made some enemies and made some friends, I'm about to graduate with no direction after just a vague idea of what I might be able to do and no idea how to do it, feel distant from my family and feel like I'm cheating myself and my friends by saying I'm busy all the time when I spend hours online just wasting time doing nothing to progress myself or others. Then I just get lost. Anyways, tired now and heading off to meditate now before bed. Still have studying to do and getting up early to hang eat breakfast before school and final test tomorrow.
I've worked hard without much slacking and in a non harmful way. I've kept the violence to a minimum, although a few slip ups have happened. I've been reflecting on all that I've done this past weekend and thinking I could of done better, been better, and helped others more than I had, being less selfish in the process.
Reflecting on what my life is right now though- I'm not sure I really want to take that step back and look at my life and see it as a whole. Thoughts like- I'm 2 decades old, been dating almost 2 years, made but learned from my mistakes with little to no regrets, made some enemies and made some friends, I'm about to graduate with no direction after just a vague idea of what I might be able to do and no idea how to do it, feel distant from my family and feel like I'm cheating myself and my friends by saying I'm busy all the time when I spend hours online just wasting time doing nothing to progress myself or others. Then I just get lost. Anyways, tired now and heading off to meditate now before bed. Still have studying to do and getting up early to hang eat breakfast before school and final test tomorrow.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Hello bloggers.
Welcome to my blog. A little about me. I am currently into: reading Harry Potter fan fictions, watching foreign French films, speaking French whenever possible, latex clothing, industrial, techno, dub step, urban green, classical and many more styles of music, artists such as Massive attack, Devotchka, Muse, The Faint, Nightwish, M83, Radiohead, Puscifer, A Perfect Circle, Justice, MGMT, Welder, Bjork, Boards of Canada, Tom Waits, VNV Nation, Sigur Ros, Gorillaz, Chumbawumba, and many more. I enjoy creating things and I know that is my life's purpose. Right now I am a cook at a new restaurant and spend much of my time there unfortunately. I am also a full time student at Normandale Community College and am soon to graduate in May 2010.
I also have a cat born in October 2007 who likes to sit in my lap as I type my assignments at night on my PC. He is gray marble and very handsome. He likes catnip, string, tootsie rolls/pops as well as cough drops and being outside any time of year. He is a very large cat but not fat or heavy set.
At school I find my attention span nearly gone after the first hour or 2, which is unfortunate and means I'm not paying attention as much as I should be. Because I work so much, I don't spend enough time on homework and sometimes even have to work at the time my class ends, thus making me leave (or be late if it ends before my class starts) class early. Sometimes when I forget to turn an assignment in on time I procrastinate on it and eventually just don't turn it in, even if it is 90% done. I also won't turn something in again if it was originally lost if I must type it up and make it again. Repeating myself is a big no-no for me as I find it terribly irksome.
For my Intro to world religions course taught by my favorite philosophy teacher Maran Wolsten. It is a great pleasure to have her again for my third philosophy course.
As part of Maran's class for my final project I am converting to Buddhism for 2 weeks and writing a journal about it. So far I've been a Buddhist for one week and am finding it a great help and purifier in my life. I've come to accept things as they are, for good and bad, and made a couple life changes that I don't plan on having to change again.
As part of being a Buddhist, I've become a vegetarian. Buddhists believe in not harming or taking life, human or animal, but in respecting it. This was both a hard and easy thing to become. Hard because I feel like I am now limited as to what I can eat, and when I am really hungry it feels like the only food available to me is tainted by meat. Also I am constantly surrounded by several of choices of meat at work. I've begun to snack on unhealthy things like candy because of this, but that's something else entirely.
It's easy to be a vegetarian though because for the past year, meat hasn't been tasting as good as it used to. I used to joke saying I could never give up meat especially nice bloody steak (medium rare) because it is just too delicious. But things food has not been holding itself up to the standards I am used to. It's been dry, flavorless and just not appetizing. I know I am getting more nutrients now though that I've stopped eating meat as I eat more veggies and grains to make up for it.
Another part of being a Buddhist though at this point of time I forget what part, but I've been controlling my anger and thoughts much better than I had before. If someone is being a jerk, rude or a horrible person, then instead of holding onto that anger and ruminating on it, I've been accepting that as how it is, see things from their perspective and others, try to understand their actions and words, and finally accept it and let it go.
One of the eight points of Buddhism is to control or acknowledge what one is saying, how it is said and why it is said. Like gossip. There is no need to gossip and it shouldn't be done unless the person is there and you are talking to them about it. So I haven't been gossiping. I know it harmful to myself and others to do so and I don't want to be that kind of person to talk about others behind their backs, good or bad. I've always been like this although now I am more strict and will stop myself before I say anything. I do find it hard to not gossip though, especially if I am trying to learn more about a person or explain how my days been or describe someone.
That is all for now gents and ladies. Ado until my next post.
I also have a cat born in October 2007 who likes to sit in my lap as I type my assignments at night on my PC. He is gray marble and very handsome. He likes catnip, string, tootsie rolls/pops as well as cough drops and being outside any time of year. He is a very large cat but not fat or heavy set.
At school I find my attention span nearly gone after the first hour or 2, which is unfortunate and means I'm not paying attention as much as I should be. Because I work so much, I don't spend enough time on homework and sometimes even have to work at the time my class ends, thus making me leave (or be late if it ends before my class starts) class early. Sometimes when I forget to turn an assignment in on time I procrastinate on it and eventually just don't turn it in, even if it is 90% done. I also won't turn something in again if it was originally lost if I must type it up and make it again. Repeating myself is a big no-no for me as I find it terribly irksome.
For my Intro to world religions course taught by my favorite philosophy teacher Maran Wolsten. It is a great pleasure to have her again for my third philosophy course.
As part of Maran's class for my final project I am converting to Buddhism for 2 weeks and writing a journal about it. So far I've been a Buddhist for one week and am finding it a great help and purifier in my life. I've come to accept things as they are, for good and bad, and made a couple life changes that I don't plan on having to change again.
As part of being a Buddhist, I've become a vegetarian. Buddhists believe in not harming or taking life, human or animal, but in respecting it. This was both a hard and easy thing to become. Hard because I feel like I am now limited as to what I can eat, and when I am really hungry it feels like the only food available to me is tainted by meat. Also I am constantly surrounded by several of choices of meat at work. I've begun to snack on unhealthy things like candy because of this, but that's something else entirely.
It's easy to be a vegetarian though because for the past year, meat hasn't been tasting as good as it used to. I used to joke saying I could never give up meat especially nice bloody steak (medium rare) because it is just too delicious. But things food has not been holding itself up to the standards I am used to. It's been dry, flavorless and just not appetizing. I know I am getting more nutrients now though that I've stopped eating meat as I eat more veggies and grains to make up for it.
Another part of being a Buddhist though at this point of time I forget what part, but I've been controlling my anger and thoughts much better than I had before. If someone is being a jerk, rude or a horrible person, then instead of holding onto that anger and ruminating on it, I've been accepting that as how it is, see things from their perspective and others, try to understand their actions and words, and finally accept it and let it go.
One of the eight points of Buddhism is to control or acknowledge what one is saying, how it is said and why it is said. Like gossip. There is no need to gossip and it shouldn't be done unless the person is there and you are talking to them about it. So I haven't been gossiping. I know it harmful to myself and others to do so and I don't want to be that kind of person to talk about others behind their backs, good or bad. I've always been like this although now I am more strict and will stop myself before I say anything. I do find it hard to not gossip though, especially if I am trying to learn more about a person or explain how my days been or describe someone.
That is all for now gents and ladies. Ado until my next post.
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